I was having a conversation with my best friend about dating and she said that she wants me to have a “real life boyfriend.” I was like “opposed to the imaginary boyfriends that I usually have?” It’s funny because I totally get what she was saying, and that was that dating is miserable when you do it for the wrong reasons and with the wrong guys. I can’t say that all my boyfriends sucked, because I did have some good ones, but lately I have been settling. So I rather wait for someone awesome right now than settle for good enough. I feel very girly writing this, but after all I’m a girl and I need to have that “spark” and some kind of connection with a guy before I can move forward. I’m pretty sure there are men who would totally agree with me on this topic and dating is miserable when you don’t have that connection. When you lack the “spark” in a relationship it is a constant struggle to make things work. You don’t feel super excited to see each other and it is so much easier to pick fights and disagree on things. It makes you feel miserable when you are constantly working on something, but it just doesn’t work. You argue all the time, but stay in the relationship anyway hoping that things will get better. Would you keep a job or keep on going to school for something you were failing at? Probably not, but at one point or another we have all done it. At least for me, I’m done with “imaginary boyfriends” and I am willing to spend a few lonely nights here and there, in exchange for someone awesome rather than adding another failed relationship to my list.
